Job/ Relationship?

I’m sort of back together with a guy who doesn’t care that I’m not confident, somewhat independent and don’t feel so useless because I’m not working. I’m with someone who doesn’t challenge me to be better and who doesn’t push me to get things done. Who for some reason, loves the emptiness, rather then actually wanting to see myself make whole. Who says ” don’t worry, we will figure it out”. Then, doesn’t follow through. I procrastinate by nature..I need someone to kick me in the ass, as well as themselves. i need the calm, i already have the storm. I need the poet, I already am the warrior.